A Servant’s Heart

A Servant’s Heart


My husband and I are celebrating our 46th anniversary. In a time when marriages come and go like the wind – especially among celebrities we see across the TV screen or plastered on magazines at the newsstand– it is an accomplishment worth noting. In our quiet, nondescript life, one year has added upon another to 46. It is not that we have not had our ups and downs, like all married couples, but it has stood the test of time. My brothers, both with failed marriages, asked me one day why ours has endured.  As I pondered the question, I thought of a few things that stood out. We went into this marriage really meaning “for better or worse”. Now, I admit there has been a lot of “better” but the “worse” came too. Never in those times did we think anything else looked more appealing than working through the issues because we were so committed to each other and to our marriage. Having equality in our marriage has been an essential key, too. We strive to make decisions together because what one decides affects the other. We always consider if the decision is the best for “us” – not for the one. My husband and I have a saying “It’s you and me against the world.” Now, we are not really against the world, but it says to both of us that we are in this together and it matters less about everything else.  We make the other a priority and always have through time spent and good communication. When the kids were young, with all of their activities, and jobs and volunteer obligations took our time and energy and it was a tougher thing to accomplish making our marriage a priority – but we did it. Whatever our time is invested in – our heart follows. God has blessed us incredibly because we have aimed to follow His ideas for marriage. He says wives are to show honor and respect to their husbands. My husband is the head of our family and I work to show him that respect and honor in my attitude in relating to him. And God says husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He works to take great care of his body – making sure it has what it needs, and he cares for me in that way. Women thrive on security – meaning they can count on their husband not turning their back on them emotionally. So each has their God-given duty to fulfill and we aim for that. Success in marriage – or any endeavor – happens on purpose and as we have centered our marriage on these principles, it has thrived. We have a servant’s heart toward each other and work to meet each other’s needs and because of these principles, we look forward to many more God – centered, happy years together.  🙂


18 thoughts on “A Servant’s Heart

  1. Ann, congratulations on your 46th Anniversary! My husband and I will be celebrating our 56th in October. Having God in your lives is truly what makes a great marriage. God bless you both.


  2. Ann, this was wonderful! My husband and I will be married 45 years in a few weeks, and what you said about your marriage is similar to how we have viewed our life together. Your blog (and knitting) are an inspiration.

    Mary H.


  3. May you continue to be blessed in what has obviously been a very happy union. So nice to hear that they do exist in today’s troubling times.


  4. Thank you for those tips! Your marriage is one we can all learn from. You’ve always been great friends! Happy 46th Anniversary!


  5. Congratulations to you both. Whilst we follow no particular religion it is clear you have found strength in yours and I respect your right to follow your chosen path. My husband and I are both second-time-arounders and have been married to each other for 37 happy years, not easy years by any means but we respect each other and support each other. We both wish you health and happiness for many years to follow.


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